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MaksimSmelchak

Post subject: Maksim's Blog: Posted: Mon Aug 15, 2005 2:43 pm

Brood Brother Joined: Sun Feb 16, 2003 4:43 pm Posts: 7258 Location: Sacramento, California, USA

Hi Iain, Sigh. I had hoped that this sorry situation had resolved itself and sorted itself out. To be honest, my patience with the situation is running dry. I'm also tired with the situation. I want it to be over and to reconcile and to return to what we had before. Maksim: I dont necessarily think that bringing this all up again and naming names has been a positive thing, but I will not be altering or censoring your post.

I asked how to deal with this. Noone answered so I dealt with it in my way. I put it out in the open to talk it out. Letting it sit didn't work for three weeks and it was festering. I put my cards out on the table. I didn't know what else to do.

You and a number of other members here may have issues with other members, that is your right and I am not going to comment on this or any justification for it. All that I will say is that it is not my job or right to get involved.

I respect you, Iain, but the "hands-off" approach wasn't working for me.

I do feel that a lot of this has occurred because you are not happy with the way that I dealt with the situation, and likewise I feel that Dafrca is also not entirely satisified with the solution. Well, that is perhaps that best indication that the resolution was fair - since if I cant please everyone equally then upsetting everyone equally seems pretty close!

I accept the way you dealt with the situation, Iain. It's over. No complaints here. ?

Maksim, you feel like you have been painted as the bad guy, PG feels victimised, I feel that I am caught in a war and Dafrca feels that things have been unfairly concluded.

I would rather see things go Dafrca's way than see him leave. If Solomon would have the baby cut in half, I'll give up my half to the other parent.

Personally, I have no real problems with anyone here, including PG, but this subject is just never-ending.

I'm OK now. I simply want to find a way to reconcile with Dafrca.

If people are ignoring your messages, then there is little that you can do about it. We should all be adult here, and we should all be able to discuss issues without getting overly offended. People disagree with others. It happens.

You're right. There is nothing I can do about it.

However, that didn't stop me from trying. If I did nothing, I would have felt helpless.

For example, and I am not saying that this ever actually happened, but if people dont like a decision that I have made about these boards at any time, then they should let me know. I will review it, but if I still come to the same conclusion then I won't change that decision. Will everyone like it? Certainly not, but it happens.

I accept what happened. The decision worked fine by me.

Everyone here has a right to voice an opinion, as long as it is not designed to offend, upset or incite. In any flare up of this type, there is never solely one person to blame for it all. If, at any time, either side had simply walked away and not let it bother them, then we would not still be discussing it. All that I am saying, Maksim, is that I do not see you as the cause or only problem, and also that I don't necessarily see PG as the sole root of it all either.

I agree.

I will close for an appeal for calm. If anyone has any issues about anything, then please contact me via PM and I will do what I can. Dafrca, I believe that there are degrees between good online friends and leaving the boards, I hope that you can find them and work things out.

I'll try, Iain. I've said my peace. I didn't leave it bottled up and I left the venues of communication open. I don't know what else I can do.

Maksim, if he can't, then you have to move on. People disagree, there are a lot more important and terrible things going on in the world out there.

I guess the point of contention for me is that I really don't want to move on. I think the world of Dafrca and want to heal what is between us as friends.

And you are right about there being much more important and terrible things going on in the world out there.

Sheesh! If this goes on much more, I will have to start charging therapy fees! ?

So, Iain, how do you charge?

Infantry stands, Warlord Titans or vehicles?

Shalom,
Maksim-Smelchak.