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MaksimSmelchak	Post subject: Maksim's Blog: Posted: Wed Aug 17, 2005 4:04 pm
Brood Brother Joined: Sun Feb 16, 2003 4:43 pm Posts: 7258 Location: Sacramento, California, USA	Hi Everyone, ------ I won't be leaving... this place is my community and home. Like L-4, Epicomms is an oasis in my desert. I look forward to coming here, talking about our hobby and hearing from people I am genuinely fond of. Epicomms is a home away from home for me. Dafrca: ...I will remove myself from these boards so you can be happy again. At no point did I ever ask, hint or imply that Dafrca should leave. Dafrca left by his own decision and I'm not responsible for it. All the effort I went through writing to him here was intended to communicate that I want him to stay and was willing to work it out with him. If I didn't care, I wouldn't have said anything. I'm sad that Dafrca, by his own decision, has decided to leave and I look forward to his eventual return. ------ I think Dafrca will be back as well. He's been going through a rough patch this year and I think its latest incarnation may be the worst so far. He's put off his gaming (including the community that goes with it) several times this year and rightly so because family does come first, after all. What really got my attention this time was the personal nature of things and the fact that I still don't understand what I did "wrong." At this point, there's nothing more I can do. I reached out, I sincerely wrote him, I tried to rally the community behind him and he's simply just not willing to accept that I care and want to bridge the rifts. ------ After talking to two of the best people I know, Diana, my girlfriend, and Iaian AKA Cybershadow, I've decided to give Dafrca some space. It will be at least a month before I decide to test the waters again (Meaning mid-September at earliest). ------ I gave it a fighting try to work things out and I can't think of any additional way I could extend myself to him using my own devices. Without him telling me a way to extend myself to him (meaning receiving his help to do right by him), there's nothing more I can do except to leave some space and wait for time to heal. My bag of tricks is empty. My conscience is also clear because I did try. At this point, Dafrca has given up. Dafrca: I wrote five different responses to this post and deleted them all. In the end they just were not going to fix anything nor were they going to help in any way.

I don't agree with Dafrca's above quote. Opening up the lines of communication is how to "fix things" or "to get help." Not doing so is giving up... plain and simple.

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The best thing about all of this is that Dafrca's nature is good. In fact, he is one of the best people I know. Eventually, his inner self will get past this latest challenge to him, and he'll return to the community that loves him here at Epicomms. However, with the magnitude of the challenges and responsibilities he's dealing with at home and work, I'm guessing that it might be an extended leave of absence... possibly several months or even more.

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I wrote this thread to empty my conscience and to leave a note of hope for those "regulars" who have been otherwise occupied. Give it some time. Dafrca's a good guy and he'll come around. We'll miss him in the mean time.

I'm considering this case closed and will no longer discuss it here on Epicomms until mid-September at earliest.

Back to our regular programing... ?

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Shalom,
Maksim-Smelchak.